There is no way for parents and educators to raise their children and young ones except by looking at the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace. -; Whether he urged it with his words, or alluded to it by his actions and dealings with it, or referred to it in some of his enlightening words. public Among those prophetic methods in raising children that parents and educators should act upon are as follows:
Good example for children
Good example, which is one of the most important foundations of education. Therefore, God Almighty mentioned it in His Holy Book on the authority of the first educator of the nation, our Prophet Muhammad - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him and his family. M- He, the Blessed and Exalted, said: {Indeed, in the Messenger of God, you have an excellent example for those who hope in God and the Last Day and remember God. a lot ([Al-Ahzab: 21]; By way of a good example, parents instill in their children the strongest good and kind effects, he said - may God bless him and grant him peace He greeted -: “There is no child but he is born according to the fitrah, so his parents make him Judaize, Christianize him, and prostitute him…”. Parents should set a good example for their children in words and deeds.
It's time to guide the kids
One of the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children is finding the right time for guidance and education. Assess ideas, correct wrong behavior, and build correct behavior. Among the appropriate times for that: the time to go out for a walk, walk on the road, and ride the car, on the authority of Ibn Abbas - may God be pleased with him. Nahma- he said: I was behind the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - one day, and he said: “O boy, I am teaching you words: God bless your guess Save God and you will find it towards you, if you ask, ask God, and if you seek help, seek help from God, and know that if the nation were to unite on If they were to benefit you with something, they would not benefit you except with something that God had already pre-ordained for you, and if they were to gather together to harm you with something, they would not harm you. Nothing that God has ordained for you, I was raised the pens and the newspapers have dried up"
also at mealtime; It is a good time to direct to the right way in eating and drinking; On the authority of Umar ibn Abi Salama - may God be pleased with them both - he said: I was a boy under the care of the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - and the hand of scurry about in the newspaper; The Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - said to me: “Oh boy, name God, and eat with your right hand, and eat from what follows you.”
also at the time of the illness of the child; On the authority of Anas bin Malik - may God be pleased with him - who said: A Jewish boy used to serve the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - and he fell ill, so the Prophet came to him He, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, used to go back to him, then he sat at his head and said to him: “I embrace Islam.” Then he looked at his father while he was with him. He said to him: Obey Aba Al-Qasim - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - and he embraced Islam. The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, came out while saying: extend to God who saved him from the fire"
Justice among children
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children as well: justice between children, which is an important method. Very good at straightening children, instilling love among them, and keeping them away from hatred, envy, and hatred of parents. Because if they see from their fathers or mothers an inclination towards one another over the other in gifts, and showing love and honor a; This will lead to undesirable results. On the authority of Al-Nu`man bin Bashir - may God be pleased with them both - he said: My father took me to the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - and he said: O Messenger of God, I testify that I have given the anemone such and such of my money, and he said: “Eat your children. anemone? he said no. He said: “So someone else bears witness to this.” Then he said: “Would it please you that they be equal to you in righteousness?” He said: Yes. He said: "No then." And in a narration: “So do not bear witness to me, for I do not bear witness to injustice.”
Responding to the rights of the child
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children: responding to the legitimate rights of children; As the right to appreciation and progress; On the authority of Sahl bin Saad - may God be pleased with him - he said: A cup was brought to the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - and he drank, and at his right was a boy who was He told the people, with the old men on his left, and he said: “Oh boy, will you permit me to give the old men?” He said: I was not. I would prefer someone with my share from you, O Messenger of God, so he gave it to him. This method is very effective on the child's psyche. Where he feels that he has become old and a respected person, and he has his rights, and this also makes him like to sit with those who are honored. And they know his worth from adults.
Pray for the children
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children: supplication for them. Its impact on the present and future of children! And what is the evidence of the parents' endurance and patience, and their keenness on their children! And that is because the annoyance of children is great, and their stubbornness and inclination from obedience is much, and despite all of that, the generous parents remain. They pray for their children.
On the authority of Ibn Abbas - may God be pleased with them both - he said: The Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - included me and said: “God teach him the Book.” To a Muslim: “O Allah, give him understanding of the religion.”
Buy toys and gifts for children
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children: buying toys and gifts, according to Aisha - may God be pleased with him. A-: She used to play with the girls in the presence of the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace. From the Messenger of God - May God bless him and grant him peace -, She said: The Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - used to leak them to me. What is meant by the girls that Aisha used to play with - may God be pleased with her -: the statues that were called girls' toys.
Stay away from too much blame and admonition
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - in raising children as well: avoiding excessive blame and reproaches. Nass said: I served the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - for ten years - and he never said to me: Uh, and why did you do it? Or would you not have done it?”
The child's speech as much as his mind
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - in raising children: addressing them according to their intellect, and staying with them in Talking according to their understanding, and this is what brings them pleasure, and makes them feel the love of those who address them. On the authority of Anas bin Malik, he said: The Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - was the best of people in morals, and I had a brother called: Abu Umair. He said: I think he said - he was weaned - he said: So when the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - came, he saw him He said: “Abu Umair, what did an-Naghir do?” He said: He used to play with it
The company of children
Also among the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children: accompanying them, going out with them, and walking with him. m; to teach them some good qualities, and to see how to deal with people; The Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - was accompanying the children. such as the son of Abbas and Anas - may God be pleased with them - and the sons of his cousin Jaafar bin Abi Talib, and others. And the Prophet - upon him be blessings and peace - taught the parents of the children that they should accompany their children, so that their souls may be disciplined, and their souls will be strengthened. The bond and love between them.
Bring joy to the children
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children: making them happy; This is because bringing happiness to them plays an important and necessary role in their lives, and it has a wonderful effect on them. It relieves their hardship and motivates them to do the work assigned to them, and it was - may God bless him and grant him peace - the best. In that, and among the methods of making children happy: caressing them and making them laugh; On the authority of Anas - may God be pleased with him - he said: The Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - used to play with Zainab bint Umm Salamah and say: “O Zoe Nab, O Zwainab, repeatedly
Cultivate the spirit of constructive competition among children
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children: is the cultivation of the spirit of constructive competition between them, and rewarding thousands of children. Rise, and this method encourages them to progress in knowledge and work, and nurtures in them the ardent determination to excel the mother. Wur, how many jobs do not comply until this effective method is the way to it! On the authority of Abdullah bin Al-Harith, he said: The Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - used to describe Abdullah, and the servants of God, and the Abbasids were numerous. He said: “Whoever races to me will have such-and-such.” He said: They will run to him, and they will fall on his back and chest, and he will kiss them and He commits them . And this act of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - despite his preoccupation with the concerns of the nation indicates the firmness of his humility. the gift; Even he did not neglect to entertain the children and bring them pleasure with this game.
Praise and praise the children
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children: praising and uttering some words that indicate praise and flattery, and those phrases that are drenched with the dew of love fall on the child's heart and grow in him the love of his educator. Schmeir to the tasks given by that educator; On the authority of Nafea bin Al-Harith Al-Thaqafi, Abu Bakra, he said: I saw the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - on the pulpit and the Sunnah with him when he turned to people once and to him once, and he said: “This son of mine is a master, and perhaps God will reconcile the relationship through him.” Two great Muslims
Petting children and being humble with them
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children: playing with children and being humble towards them, and this tends to Why are the adult educators aware of the good effect of this method in child-rearing, given the multiplicity of their work? Being very busy, they made room to play with their children. so that they may bring joy to them, and wipe away from their souls the dust of life's grievances; On the authority of Abu Hurairah - may God be pleased with him - he said: The Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - used to stick his tongue out at Al-Hussein, and he would see the boy redness of his tongue and it flickers at him
Good appeal to children
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children: is a kind call to the child, and this method has a great effect. It affects the child's psyche, as some of the calls make the child feel the mercy of the one who is calling him, and some of them make him feel his sympathy and love for him. Eh, and among them is what is instilled in him that he has a stature high in the same addressee, and other than that bear good appeals by parents or educators; The Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - used to diversify his appeal to the children with several expressions. to arouse their attention; Sometimes he addresses the child with his nickname, so he caresses him by saying: “Oh Abu Umair, what did the slave girl do?”, and at other times he addresses him as a child. Then he calls out to him: “Oh boy, I am teaching you some words..”, “Oh boy, name God Almighty, and eat with your right hand..”.
Actual practice in front of the child's eyes
Among the methods of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - in raising children: the actual practice in front of the child's eyes; So it depends on what he saw in the future of his matter, so he who saw is not like he who heard, on the authority of Abu Saeed - may God be pleased with him - that the Prophet The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, passed by a boy while he was skinning a sheep, and the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said to him: “Depart until I show you “So he inserted his hand between the skin and the flesh, trampling it until it reached the armpit, then he moved on.”
Disciplining the child
The Prophet Muhammad, may God bless him and grant him peace, used different methods to discipline children and set an example for parents and educators. One of these methods is teaching children good manners, as explained in the hadith of Omar bin Abi Salamah. The Prophet said: “O boy, name God, and eat with your right hand, and eat from what is in front of you.”
Disciplining through intimidation, without arousing fear, was another approach adopted by the Prophet. Instilling the educator's authority in the child's mind is crucial to effective parenting. On the authority of Ibn Abbas, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, ordered the whip to be hung in the house as a symbol of authority and order.
In addition, the Prophet emphasized practical punishment when necessary, emphasizing that it should be viewed as a remedy rather than retaliation. He set limits on physical discipline, warning against excess. The Prophet recommended not to exceed ten whips, except within the limits set by God. He also stressed protecting the face while carrying out the punishment.
Verbal discipline also played an important role. The Prophet used words to guide children and warn them against undesirable behavior. We see an example in his dealings with Hassan bin Ali. When Hassan took a date, the Prophet gently warned him, saying: “Leave it, for we do not eat charity.”
We urge Muslims to think about these wise methods and incorporate them into their education methods. By following the teachings of the Prophet, parents can raise good and respectable children, ensuring harmony in families and communities.